Break Up And Get Back Together
Posted by Daniel on Saturday, 8 May, 2010 @ 8:19 am
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It’s not uncommon for couples to go through cycles where they break up and get back together. At first, this may seem romantic, like no matter what problems you have the two of you were meant to be together. After a while though, it just gets old. If you are sick of the cycle and want to put an end to it, first of all congratulations on becoming an adult who wants an adult relationship, and secondly, here is some advice.
Oftentimes this whole process of fighting and reuniting is just an immature way to spice things up. Like it or not, some people like the drama. They like things always on ‘high’. The problem is that that is no basis for a sound relationship and if you and your partner are at the age where you are thinking about marriage it can become a nightmare. While it might seem fun, exciting, and maybe even a little sexy to have makeup sex, it isn’t so hot when you have kids, jobs and a mortgage. Once you’ve become an adult with adult responsibilities this type of behavior will just become exhausting and at some point one or the other of you will have had enough, but before you reach that point you will do a lot of harm to all the people in your life especially your kids. Instead of that, just ask yourself what you and your partner fight about. If it’s just simple things than the two of you need to sit down, maybe with a therapist, and talk. Try to find common ground and more adult methods of dealing with your differences. If the problem is that the two of you simply aren’t compatible or if one or the other of you just enjoys the drama, you should end the relationship and go out and find someone you can have a healthy relationship with. It is possible to break the toxic cycle of break up and get back together, though the answer may just be to end the relationship and find someone you are more compatible with. Whatever you decide, just make sure you understand that this pattern isn’t sexy or romantic, it’s immature and unhealthy. Find a better way.
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